Through My Big Brown Eyes (Kalekye): TWO MONTHS DEEP!!!

Through My Big Brown Eyes (Kalekye): TWO MONTHS DEEP!!!: I must say, its been quite the whirlwind since I last posted. A year of realness I called it and best believe its been REAL to me. I have ...

TWO MONTHS DEEP!!!

I must say, its been quite the whirlwind since I last posted.

A year of realness I called it and best believe its been REAL to me. I have been blessed...blessed to share my story with the world at an event dubbed THIS IS MY STORY... I was vulnerable and open.

I discovered something as I spoke about where I came from in this journey into the media world, I learnt that all I ever wanted was my mothers approval in what I was doing. She never believed what I do would amount to much...but now she gets it....she even introduces me to everyone as a brand, ati "this is Kalekye Mumo of Kiss"...like I am not hers.. hahahaa...truly weird.
 
It sure is the strangest discovery but more discovering that my relationships with men are hugely driven by the same quest. I eagerly want the men who give me attention to approve what I do...my whole being. Big Bold and Beautiful...confident, no nonsense woman. And when I am with someone who puts me down... it cuts more than a knife, its like a samurai sword bludgeoned into my heart.

You see, I have learnt that when you love someone, you hope they support your dreams, trust you and are real with you. When anyone man or woman, puts me down, I think I flash back to the pain I felt with my mother and it hurts like it did then when all I heard was this is nonsense, your chasing clouds. So in all relaness as promised of this year.... I will be taking no pain I can avoid especially if we are not related. If i was living before you.... I sure as hell will be living after you.  *Needless to say there have been some budget cuts in the friends and lovers department*

These two months have shown me who is for me and who is not... A movie I was acting in just premiered #FundiMentalsTheMovie ....its still on at prestige every 7pm and at iMax the Arfa lounge 7 times a day....

So yes, I decided to just spread word on social media and a loose invite or two. I actually wanted to see who would be there for me without being pushed. Its been quite the experience sitting back watching how people who say they've got you...really don't. But hey, I had a great time. I also learnt that people who have never met you or know you are the most honest.

Such great things... and we ain't done yet.

TWO MONTHS DEEEP!! 

Happy New Year to REALNESS!!!!

Yep 2015 is here and I am already as real as I can be.

I know it's been a minute since I blogged but on the real... I wrote this long blog about my eyes through 2014 and somehow all my efforts to post it on New Years eve failed. Call it fate...but the kind of realness that was about to be unleashed about everything and everyone who walked through my life in 2014....was about to both build and break some people.

Good thing though...I have learnt my lessons there is that this is a year or REALNESS
Yes it's a word..My word for 2015.

And so far so good.... Telling truths and keeping it real with people about what their actions are doing to me and others we mutually know.... It's not easy but you know what I believe it will force those who get the opportunity to hangout with me the chance to be real with me too.

Yes...not everyone will make it to the finish line. Especially since half the fake friends and lying foos be cut off already. Those of you still breathing into my life breath for real and be REAL coz I will not hesitate to real you out of my life.

Happy New Year REALNESS!!!!!

Love-Live-Life

Kalekye

SOME SONGS SAY IT ALL!!!!!

There moments in life that can only be relayed by a song. Probably one of the reasons I absolutely love music.

In one stroke, a song can say the words you struggle so hard to say be they of love, concern or pain and goodbye.

I have mine.

Blame It On Me by Chrisette Michelle

Sometimes you can work it out
Sometimes you can't
Sometimes your forced to watch everything fall apart - it's out of your hands

Sometimes leaving is easy
Sometimes it ain't
Sometimes it hurts to know the loving you had was slowly fading away

You can say whatever you like
As long as we just say goodbye
Blame it on me
Say its my fault
Say that I left you outside in the cold with a broken heart
I really don't care
I ain't crying no more
Say I'm a liar - a cheater
Say anything that you want
As long as it's over

I'm not a quitter
I just ain't the type
I try to see you through
I try to make it to the finishing line
Ohh you thought we were meant to be
I admit so did I
Every once in a while you think you figured it out
Sometimes your not right

Yes I love you but I gotta loose you
Freedom is where in wanna be
Yes I'll probably always love you but I'm moving
I gotta do this for me

If you have never heard the song, listen:

Chrisette Michele Blame It On Me: http://youtu.be/INrEUmRAwAc

Words non truer have ever been written about relationships that no matter what need to end. It hurts but it needs to be done.

This is where I am...repeating this song. Being strong enough to take the blame... in knowing
it will set me free from a whirl wind that could eat me up alive.

Some songs say it all.....

Find your song, it's so freeing. One song.....lyrics from the deep, and everything that you were trying to say is out there.
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Love-Live-Life

Kalekye

NOT FOR EVERYONE!!!

I am not for everyone

I am an acquired taste

I don't talk like the average girl

I speak with passion, believe in what I say and don't lie

I am not for everyone

I am a creative, I shade outside of the lines

I live outside the box, my world is LARGE

I am in charge of my actions

I am not for everyone

I am fearfully and wonderfully created

I have hips for days and full in all ways

I am all about that bass

I am not for everyone

I am straight talking, I speak my mind
I say what I mean and mean what I say
I am confident in my decisions

I am not for everyone

I am for the one that allows me to be me

I have a lot to offer to the one who dares to try me

I am for you who loves life

Love-Live-Life
Kalekye

CHARACTER IS EVERYTHING!!!!!

Character....what is it?

By the Oxford Dictionary definition the noun character is defined as the mental and moral qualities distinctive to a person. Character is used to define personality.

Now we all claim to be good judges of character but lately I'm finding that as women we compromise on character just so we get what we want especially when it comes to men. Usually that's just attention and affection....having a man next to you. 

Seriously, ladies think about it, we tend to bend over backwards and give the men who are just but passerby's....meant to be but a fleeting moment in our lives....waaay too much room to manipulate and use us....be it emotionally or otherwise...to their fill as we compromise our ourselves for their poor character.

Well let me lay it down for you ladies...It's about time you stop falling for potential.

Fall only for what already exists.

How he treats you, how he talks to you, how he presents himself for inspection, how he supports and encourages your dreams and ambitions....that's the real deal.

And you my doll are the one who determines how it all goes down.

Don't give too much attention to his so called POTENTIAL.

Ohh you say.... he has potential to change, potential to treat you well, potential take you out on a date, potential to grow with you...soon as he gets time, money or whatever other excuse he gives you or worse you make for him.

And all the while you keep waiting while you are treated like crap...

That my friend is the lie we tell ourselves so that we keep a man around.

Time and again all my male friends tell me....If a man likes you and wants you he will do everything...no questions asked to have you.

WHATS THERE NOT TO LIKE??

His character will be driven.

So ladies, stop hanging on for forever waiting on someone's potential to have character. If they don't have the character that you can live with from the beginning...they never will.

Potential simply isn't enough...

Character Is Everything!!!

Love-Live-Life

Kalekye.

STAND UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN....

Its one of the most difficult things to do....stand up and say what you believe but you know what you got to... its your opinion, and if you don't believe it...who will?? I mean lets be honest, opinions are like a**holes.....everyone has one!

Why am I on this rampage....because I took a stand to declare that breast cancer is REAL and that as a woman you need to cherish your twins, get checked every year...and what better way than to hold them, lovingly and declare to keep them safe. We got checked and did a photo shoot with my fellow girls cast for the upcoming film Fundi-Mentals and apparently it isn't going down well with some.

Why? Because I have an image to uphold, and as much as its for a good cause THIS IS NOT IT.....and definitely not my image...I was told!!!!

REALLY???

What image will I have when I'm dying of breast cancer or watching someone I love die of the disease?? What will I feel when I know most of my fans suffer from the disease because me and my image didn't inform them?? I am a person of influence so why not influence those who hold my image so high to go get tested? WTH????

Let those with their insecurities and super imposed images deal..... the image in question may not be your but theirs...forget them....

STAND UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN

Love-Live-Life

Kalekye.