SOME SONGS SAY IT ALL!!!!!

There moments in life that can only be relayed by a song. Probably one of the reasons I absolutely love music.

In one stroke, a song can say the words you struggle so hard to say be they of love, concern or pain and goodbye.

I have mine.

Blame It On Me by Chrisette Michelle

Sometimes you can work it out
Sometimes you can't
Sometimes your forced to watch everything fall apart - it's out of your hands

Sometimes leaving is easy
Sometimes it ain't
Sometimes it hurts to know the loving you had was slowly fading away

You can say whatever you like
As long as we just say goodbye
Blame it on me
Say its my fault
Say that I left you outside in the cold with a broken heart
I really don't care
I ain't crying no more
Say I'm a liar - a cheater
Say anything that you want
As long as it's over

I'm not a quitter
I just ain't the type
I try to see you through
I try to make it to the finishing line
Ohh you thought we were meant to be
I admit so did I
Every once in a while you think you figured it out
Sometimes your not right

Yes I love you but I gotta loose you
Freedom is where in wanna be
Yes I'll probably always love you but I'm moving
I gotta do this for me

If you have never heard the song, listen:

Chrisette Michele Blame It On Me: http://youtu.be/INrEUmRAwAc

Words non truer have ever been written about relationships that no matter what need to end. It hurts but it needs to be done.

This is where I am...repeating this song. Being strong enough to take the blame... in knowing
it will set me free from a whirl wind that could eat me up alive.

Some songs say it all.....

Find your song, it's so freeing. One song.....lyrics from the deep, and everything that you were trying to say is out there.
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Love-Live-Life

Kalekye

NOT FOR EVERYONE!!!

I am not for everyone

I am an acquired taste

I don't talk like the average girl

I speak with passion, believe in what I say and don't lie

I am not for everyone

I am a creative, I shade outside of the lines

I live outside the box, my world is LARGE

I am in charge of my actions

I am not for everyone

I am fearfully and wonderfully created

I have hips for days and full in all ways

I am all about that bass

I am not for everyone

I am straight talking, I speak my mind
I say what I mean and mean what I say
I am confident in my decisions

I am not for everyone

I am for the one that allows me to be me

I have a lot to offer to the one who dares to try me

I am for you who loves life

Love-Live-Life
Kalekye

CHARACTER IS EVERYTHING!!!!!

Character....what is it?

By the Oxford Dictionary definition the noun character is defined as the mental and moral qualities distinctive to a person. Character is used to define personality.

Now we all claim to be good judges of character but lately I'm finding that as women we compromise on character just so we get what we want especially when it comes to men. Usually that's just attention and affection....having a man next to you. 

Seriously, ladies think about it, we tend to bend over backwards and give the men who are just but passerby's....meant to be but a fleeting moment in our lives....waaay too much room to manipulate and use us....be it emotionally or otherwise...to their fill as we compromise our ourselves for their poor character.

Well let me lay it down for you ladies...It's about time you stop falling for potential.

Fall only for what already exists.

How he treats you, how he talks to you, how he presents himself for inspection, how he supports and encourages your dreams and ambitions....that's the real deal.

And you my doll are the one who determines how it all goes down.

Don't give too much attention to his so called POTENTIAL.

Ohh you say.... he has potential to change, potential to treat you well, potential take you out on a date, potential to grow with you...soon as he gets time, money or whatever other excuse he gives you or worse you make for him.

And all the while you keep waiting while you are treated like crap...

That my friend is the lie we tell ourselves so that we keep a man around.

Time and again all my male friends tell me....If a man likes you and wants you he will do everything...no questions asked to have you.

WHATS THERE NOT TO LIKE??

His character will be driven.

So ladies, stop hanging on for forever waiting on someone's potential to have character. If they don't have the character that you can live with from the beginning...they never will.

Potential simply isn't enough...

Character Is Everything!!!

Love-Live-Life

Kalekye.

STAND UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN....

Its one of the most difficult things to do....stand up and say what you believe but you know what you got to... its your opinion, and if you don't believe it...who will?? I mean lets be honest, opinions are like a**holes.....everyone has one!

Why am I on this rampage....because I took a stand to declare that breast cancer is REAL and that as a woman you need to cherish your twins, get checked every year...and what better way than to hold them, lovingly and declare to keep them safe. We got checked and did a photo shoot with my fellow girls cast for the upcoming film Fundi-Mentals and apparently it isn't going down well with some.

Why? Because I have an image to uphold, and as much as its for a good cause THIS IS NOT IT.....and definitely not my image...I was told!!!!

REALLY???

What image will I have when I'm dying of breast cancer or watching someone I love die of the disease?? What will I feel when I know most of my fans suffer from the disease because me and my image didn't inform them?? I am a person of influence so why not influence those who hold my image so high to go get tested? WTH????

Let those with their insecurities and super imposed images deal..... the image in question may not be your but theirs...forget them....

STAND UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN

Love-Live-Life

Kalekye.

COURAGE IS HOW BAD YOU WANT IT!!!!

The COURAGE to get up and go

The COURAGE to say enough is enough

The COURAGE to make a change

The COURAGE to speak up and be heard

The COURAGE to say NO... to mistreatment, to disrespect and disregard.

When John Freisher said the words Courage is HOW BAD YOU WANT IT....he meant that your will power is purely driven by how bad you have been pushed to want more, better or out.

Don't be fooled, when you make a decision to go one way no holds bared, its usually because you want it bad. That is courage.

I urge you today, be courageous, try a new thing, get out of a bad relationship, defend the helpless and help with one heart.

You are in your situation of unhappiness, your hate for the goings on in your environment are all your problem...get the courage...

COURAGE IS HOW BAD YOU WANT IT!!!!

Thank you John Freisher.

Love-Live-Life
Kalekye Mumo

KNOWLEDGE IS POWER.....

 So I haven't blogged in a minute....and you missed me...yeah I know...other than taking on a new challenge...I have been READING...yes reading.

Growing up whenever I would hear my mum say, "Child you need to read, you need to love books they will save your life"....I would run. I associated it with school...even if it was novels, yes , the romantic type too or not (just wasn't my thing.....surely if I need romance I create it...true story) I WOULD RUN.....

Well.....later in life I found out that KNOWLEDGE IS POWER, and for the most it would require me to pick up a book.

So I must share this amazing book that I am reading WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES by Shery Argov. Its a MUST READ. Because apparently men love BITCHES..hang on before you chop my head off for using the B-word....let me explain.

In the few chapters I have read, I have discovered the reason why I don't get far with the opposite sex.... I am a nice girl. And for the first time I discovered that being a nice girl is NOT HOT. Believe it.

What I need to be is a B.I.T.C.H... a Babe In Total Control of Herself.n (nodding head profusely)

Apparently men are sure to be attracted to you until they discover your nice, you are easy swayed, they can calculate your every move, there is no chase because you are readily available. A bitch however, loves herself FIRST...she will be available when it suits HER. Will not make you her world UNTIL you earn it. The chase is as important to a man as it is to a cat chasing a rat. (bad example but hey, its true.)

So from today... away with the nice girl and ENTER the BITCH.

I am only doing ME, what makes ME happy, giving my time to HE who earns it and by God walking away from the non starters. YES a new me... a BITCH... Babe In Total Control of Herself...lest you get all testy with me and misinterpret me like some celebrity blog is so fond of doing...but that's a story for another day.

Read the book single ladies.... WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES by Shery Argov

KNOWLEDGE IS POWER!!!

Love-Live-Life

Kalekye.

AFTER ALL THIS TIME.....AFTER ALL IS SAID AND DONE!!!

There is nothing as realizing that the person you thought knew you best knows nothing about you in matters of loyalty.

I mean being accused with no right of reply hurts on any day, but when its by someone you hold dear? That my friend cuts like a knife. The thing is we can stop the wound from bleeding out if we just but hear each other out but when the right of reply is completely cut out, non negotiable...then my friend I must ask...AFTER ALL THIS TIME, do you really know me?

 

 

Judgement passed affects your relationship no matter the type. I say if someone jumps the gun on you like they don't know what you would or wouldn't do...they don't trust you SIMPLE.

Watch your back with such people...they preach one thing and sell another.

AFTER ALL THIS TIME.....AFTER ALL IS SAID AND DONE we can only trust ourselves. If your conscience is clear, then have no fear.

Love-Live-Life

Kalekye.

KNOW YOUR WORTH......

The saddest thing about human beings is we are too eager to please...

Was out partying with friends when we happened to discuss the rate at which people will do anything just to look good. Nobody could openly explain why they do it...which simply translates to NOT KNOWING YOUR WORTH #YeahISaidIt

It's one thing to bend over backwards, turn the blind eye and take it like a man if it's got a bigger picture sprawled all over it.....but when it compromises your progression and chances to get ahead then....nah...excuse me if I stand straight and keep my eyes wide open.

Whenever you feel like you are being asked to do something that only benefits the person asking, whenever you are being manipulated into thinking it was your choice....walk away. 

KNOW YOUR WORTH.

I stand tall saying I will not bend backwards for anything that doesn't make sense to me and my future happiness whether its family, friends, work and especially not for a man who doesn't make me feel happy.

I KNOW MY WORTH....you should too.

Live - Love - Life
Kalekye

I KNOW WHAT I DESERVE IN LOVE.....DO YOU?

Lately I have been going through such a hard time with the opposite sex, you know that place where you are being treated like option 'Z ' and it got me wondering....Am I being too demanding?

Then I came across this article highlighting what I deserve and just like that it hit me...

I am a treasure that needs to be treated as such 
I deserve what I demand.
It is not a lot - its just enough!

Hope it inspires you to know what you deserve too...

LOVE - LIVE -LIFE
~Kalekye~

You deserve love and security, a combination that warms the core of your heart. You deserve knowledge that the person you are with wants to be there and, more importantly, won’t run away when times get tough. This is someone that will stay by your side, fight your fights right there with you because they know you would do the same for them.

You deserve someone who laughs at your jokes and smiles at the mere sight of you smiling. This smile will be genuine, not fake, and you will feel butterflies when you see it and your smile will grow until your cheeks can no longer take it.

You deserve someone who doesn’t make you cry, at least on purpose, because you are human and you feel deeply and love passionately, and when one teardrop falls there may be a thousand more, but you are not alone. Even though they hurt you, they hold you until the shaking stops, wiping away your tears and kissing your damp cheeks although you whisper for them to stop. They will say sorry and you will feign being mad until you both give in to happiness again because you know anger is a state the two of you cannot remain in.

You deserve someone who takes responsibility for their mistakes and who apologizes for the times they unintentionally hurt you because you would do the same for them. You deserve someone who can forgive as you do, even if neither of you can completely forget.

You deserve someone whose touch feels like fireworks across your skin, whose eyes always look for yours when they enter a room, and whose heart never yearns for the attention of another.
You deserve trust that may waver but never entirely falter. It will look nothing like control. It will look like freedom but with your best friend by your side holding your hand. There will be moments of jealousy, but these will be outweighed by smiles, laughter, trust, and love.
You deserve back rubs for no reason, dinner you don’t have to make alone, a hand to hold, a heart to feel, and a person who cannot imagine life without you in it.

You deserve security just as much as you deserve spontaneity. You will be comfortable but not so settled down that stubborn roots no longer give you the nutrients you need to grow. This person you are with will try the things you enjoy and you will try the things they do as well. You will find new things to do and new places to go because you both love to share these sorts of moments together.
You deserve someone who pushes you to be better, to seek out the best opportunities for you even if the next step is terrifying for you both.

You deserve chocolate when you are cranky, a partner to indulge in your guilty television pleasures, and someone who tries to kiss you even though they just watched you puke up breakfast, lunch, and dinner. This is the person who laughs when you correct their grammar instead of getting mad, the one who knows they had better text you back, and the person who understands that you will not always have your “A game” out on display.

You deserve someone who wants to be better for you, someone who strives to be better for you, but, most importantly, you deserve someone who wants to be better for themselves. This is the type of person who will grow alongside of you and never dream of holding you back.

You deserve someone who is looking at the big picture in life, and that picture has you in it.
You deserve someone who continues looking forward, someone who doesn’t stop constantly to look at the past. They may not like everything about who you were before, but they love who you have become. They know not to let your past trip them up for too long. You both came into the relationship with baggage that slowly unpacked itself and, even though it would be easy enough to pack up your things and go back to your respective homes, you both stay.

You deserve someone who loves you as much as you love them, a life that is so beautiful that you cannot tell if you are awake or still in bed dreaming, and someone who doesn’t so much as put one foot out the door because they know you are not the person to walk away from. This will be the person who sticks around through thick and thin because they want to, not because they have to.

You deserve all of this and so much more, and you deserve it for a lifetime 

~Courtesy of THOUGHTCATALOG.COM

ITS ALL IN THE MESSAGE....

Pick up the gadamn phone.....check on your so called loved ones. 

Surely if you care and can't be there you can call riiight???? Worse still you can call back. 

Maan there's nothing I hate more than people who don't return calls or at the very least send a message to say why they couldn't pick up and schedule another call.

I honestly have discovered that people who do this not only have bad manners but in actual fact don't care about you....no they don't.

Oooh the freedom in KNOWING!

Think about it.....when you don't pick up a call from someone you care about because you are in a situation where you can't you rush to get back to them....but when it's a person you really feel nothing for you brush them off and completely forgot about their call without even trying riiiight? Then its settled....when you're treated the same remember who you did it to...and STOP.

 

If you don't care anymore or don't want to be there anymore say your piece end the pain like a HUMAN BEING....don't punish someone.

And you who keeps letting people do this to you and you still pick up your phone and call or text hoping that there will be a change.....STOP.

PEOPLE WILL ALWAYS SHOW YOU WHO THEY ARE.....BELIEVE THEM!!!

Even no message is a MESSAGE

Be accountable for how your treated by treating others right. Its all in the message.

LIVE - LOVE - LIFE

CLOSER THAN CLOSE...

Today I was anxious about something....very worried and anxious. I knew that I needed someone who truly cared for me to pray for me with me.

I called my mum as I was driving to my meeting...with my hands free on...yes no need to call the police....I quickly told her what I was about to face and she prayed with me over the phone. I simply cannot express the overwhelming feeling that flowed through me. Tears streamed down my face uncontrollably though I was silent through it. And when we were done after no more than a minute....I felt such love it was amazing.

It hit me....when the closest people in your life pray for you, are there for you no questions asked....that is closer than close. You will feel as though they hugged you son tight and poured God's abundant love over you. 

Closer than close...keep those people closest. 

Pray for each other.

LOVE-LIVE-LIFE

Kalekye

Through My Big Brown Eyes (Kalekye): I AM ME....AND YOU ARE YOU!!!!

Through My Big Brown Eyes (Kalekye): I AM ME....AND YOU ARE YOU!!!!: Surely people are such blood suckers you can never be too sure who is who in who.... There is nothing worse that dealing with people wh...

I AM ME....AND YOU ARE YOU!!!!

Surely people are such blood suckers you can never be too sure who is who in who....
There is nothing worse that dealing with people who think we are the same. We were all individually and wonderfully created...well most of us.

That I may walk this way, talk this way, look this way, dance this way....is my way. That I may laugh this way, smile this way, be this way, attract this way....is my way. There is no other me and there is only one you. I am me....and you are you....we are not the same.

We all have a purpose, in being me and in you being you we can only bring a little of each other to the table. We can only exist if we join our strengths, not by force not by pretending to be me and sure as hell not by hating on me.

 I AM ME....AND YOU ARE YOU....WE DON'T EXIST....unless we work as a team.

Love-Live-Life

Kalekye.

Through My Big Brown Eyes (Kalekye): ANYBODY OUT THERE?

Through My Big Brown Eyes (Kalekye): ANYBODY OUT THERE?: Hello... Can you hear me? I'm I getting through to you? Hello? Somethings wrong the world doesn't feel the same, nobody care...

ANYBODY OUT THERE?

Hello...

Can you hear me?

I'm I getting through to you?

Hello?
Somethings wrong the world doesn't feel the same, nobody cares when they say they do. Nobody is there when they say they will be. All these lies just to get ahead why should it be?

I call on you, and you and definitely YOU!!
Be present, listen, hear, feel and share in truth.

Love when you say you will love, call when you say you will call, be there when you say you will be there. Otherwise what I'm left imagining, is worse than what it really is.

Is there really ANYBODY OUT THERE who understands me?

LOVE - LIVE - LIFE

Kalekye.

Through My Big Brown Eyes (Kalekye): WHEN IT HURTS......WHERE WILL YOU BE?

Through My Big Brown Eyes (Kalekye): WHEN IT HURTS......WHERE WILL YOU BE?: Can you take me telling you the truth? Would you believe me when I tell you I knew you'd be trippin? When it hurts will you still wait a...

WHEN IT HURTS......WHERE WILL YOU BE?

Can you take me telling you the truth?
Would you believe me when I tell you I knew you'd be trippin?
When it hurts will you still wait and listen?

Can you take me telling you the truth?
Would you understand if I told you it will never be the same?
When it hurts will you still love me just the way I am?

Can you take me telling you the truth?
Would you believe that anything worth having is worth fighting for?
When it hurts will we still see what we've got together?

If these you can tell me now, then I want you now!
All you have to do is answer....
Where will you be WHEN IT HURTS?

LOVE - LIVE - LIFE


Kalekye.

SOMETIMES I WONDER.....

Sometimes I wonder why I care....that I should be there to pick you up when you fall.
That it should hurt me so when I know you don't define me.

Sometimes I wonder why you would walk away from love....when it speaks to you like no other has.
That you would claim it but fear it because you don't know what it holds

Sometimes I wonder how I am meant to keep going on.....when each corner I turn I hit a wall,
That I may pick myself up when all I want to do is give up.

I feel tired.....I feel hurt....bruised and abused....

Sometimes I wonder if its all worth it....

Then I remember HE HAS A PLAN FOR ME from this write up I read a long time ago....


Me: God can I ask you a question?

God: Sure...

Me: Promise you won't get mad!

God: I promise

Me: Why did you let so much stuff happen to me today?

God: What do you mean?

Me: Well, I woke up late,

God: Yes,

Me: My car took forever to start,

God: Okay,

Me: At lunch they made my sandwich wrong & I had to wait,

God: Hmmmm...

Me: On the way home, my phone went DEAD, just as I picked up a call.....

God: All right,

Me: And on top of it all off, when I got home I just wanted to soak my feet in my new foot massager & relax. BUT it wouldn't work!!! Nothing went right today! Why did you do that?

God: Let me see, the Death Angel was at your bed this morning & I had to send one of the other angels to battle him for your life. I let you sleep through that,

Me (humbled): OH

GOD: I didn't let your car start because there was a drunk driver on your route that would have hit you if you were on the road,

Me (ashamed).........

God: The first person who made your sandwich today was sick & I didn't want you to catch what they have, I knew you couldn't afford to miss work,

Me (embarrasses): Ok,

God: Your phone went dead bcoz the person that was calling was going to give false witness about what you said on that call, I didn't even let you talk to them so you would be covered.

Me (softly): I see God,

God: Oh yea and that foot massager, it had a shortage that was going to throw out all of the power in your house tonight. I didn't think you wanted to be in the dark.

Me: I'm sorry God

God: Don't be sorry, just learn to trust me.....in all things, the good & the bad.

Me: I will trust you

God: And don't doubt that my plan for your day is always better than your plan.

Me: I won't God. And let me just tell you God, thank you for everything today.

God: You're welcome child. It was just another day being your God and I love looking after my children......

THANK YOU GOD!

Through My Big Brown Eyes (Kalekye): Do what makes you happy

Through My Big Brown Eyes (Kalekye): Do what makes you happy: I am finally here...blogging. GOD IS GOOD.  I must say I have been dragging this plan on for EVER... but all in Gods time. And surely beca...

Open your eyes!

Today I woke up feeling quite poetic.....but everything means something.

ENJOY!

Open your eyes, see who I am... 
Don't change who I am to suit your demands.
I am what I am... Beautifully and fearlessly created. 
My role clearly dictated.
Open your eyes, don't make it and hate it... 
Walking around with your eyes wide shut wont get you respected.
 

Open your eyes, it won't go away just because you choose not to see it and fail to confront it... 
Life is way too short.
Open your eyes, accept it, embrace it, be wise and replace it before you loose it.
Open your eyes to Vidalsasoon... 
Don't fail to see the Monsoon!! 

LOVE; LIVE; LIFE
Kalekye.
 
 

Do what makes you happy

I am finally here...blogging. GOD IS GOOD. 

I must say I have been dragging this plan on for EVER... but all in Gods time. And surely because I feel it will make me happy... I AM HERE.

Okay enough with the excitement....I can bet there those of you who want to shoot me down already. But..that brings me to my point..I do what makes ME happy. Yes...and I should too. I am sooooooo tired of people telling me what I can or can not do especially when it takes nothing away from them but denies me my joy and happiness. Seriously...why would you not do what makes you happy. If a loose scream will make your heart skip a beat by all means scream (I will give you a moment because I ain't no dream killer)

Good...now that you've let that out, just how much happier are you?

Through all my life, I have been blessed by doing what makes me happy, and it makes me do my tasks better if I am happy about them. That there are those out there who get offended because one is doing what makes them happy, I say get on with your own life you dream killer. 

Dream killers are those kind of people who will never be happy to see you get ahead. You can't let them run you. Do what makes YOU happy, life is way way too short to be dragged down maintaining the status quo and it does nothing but make you miserable.

Be happy, do you.

Love, Live, Life
Kalekye.